One of the most common love triangles in the Bible involves Jacob and his wives, and there’s a fascinating story behind it. Although Jacob is famous for being a cunning man who stole his brother’s birthright and blessings, he possessed impressive attributes.
From the biblical narratives of Jacob, he can be described as a courageous and intentional man who would do anything to get the woman of his dreams.
In this article, we’ll talk about Jacob’s marital life, narrating the sacrifices he made and the challenges he faced on his love journey. Let’s begin with a brief account of who Jacob is in the Book of Genesis.
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Jacob is the twin brother of Esau, the son of Isaac and Rebecca, and the grandson of Abraham and Sarah. He’s also one of the three patriarchs of Israel, with his father Isaac and his grandfather Abraham being the other two.
When Rebekah was pregnant with her twin boys, after several years of barreness, she noticed that they jostled each other in her womb. So she asked God why this was happening, and the Lord said to her,
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“Two nations are in your womb, and two peoples from within you shall be divided; the one shall be stronger than the other, the older shall serve the younger.” (Genesis 25:23).
During the time of Rebekah’s delivery, Jacob grasps the heels of his brother Esau, suggesting that he was the stronger one who would rule over his brother.
Esau grew up to be a hunter, and Jacob preferred to stay at home. Isaac loved Esau more than his brother, and Rebeccah loved Jacob more, an unhealthy behavior that later set the foundation for long-term conflict between the two sons.
When Isaac was old and his eyes were dim, he thought it would be best to bless his first son Esau because he could die at any time. Then he asked Esau to prepare a delicious meal for him so that he could bless him.
Rebeccah was eavesdropping on their conversations, and she quickly came up with a plan on how her favorite son Jacob would receive the blessing instead of Esau.
Fortunately for Rebeccah, Jacob received the blessing belonging to her brother. Esau found out about Jacob’s deceitful act and said to himself that he would kill him.
Rebeccah heard about Esau’s plan to kill Jacob, so she advised Jacob to flee to her brother Laban’s house for safety.
On hearing about Esau’s plan to kill his brother, Isaac called Jacob and blessed him. He also advised Jacob not to marry any of the daughters of Canaan, but instead get a wife from the daughters of Laban, his uncle.
Jacob went on his way to Paddan Aram, where his mother’s brother Laban and his family reside. While on his journey, Jacob stopped at a place to sleep because the sun had set. He took a stone and placed it under his head to sleep.
Then Jacob had a dream in which he saw the angels of God ascending and descending on a ladder resting on the earth, with its top reaching the heavens. At that place, God made the same promises He made to his grandfather Abraham to him and also promised to continue to be with him.
When Jacob became conscious of the happenings in his surroundings, he named the place Bethel, meaning “house of God,” because he believed it was the gateway to heaven. He also made a vow that if God’s promise came to pass in his life, he would give one-tenth of his possessions to the Lord.
A similar description of Jacob’s dream can be found in the New Testament in John 1:51. Jesus Christ says to one of his disciples Nathanael, “Truly, truly, I say to you, you will see heaven opened, and the angels of God ascending and descending on the Son of Man.”
Jacob Meets Rachel
Jacob continued his journey to Paddan Aram, and when he got to the land of the people of the East, he saw a well. Lying by the well were flocks of sheep with their shephereds standing with them.
Jacob moved closer to the shepherds and greeted them and asked if they knew Laban, the grandson of Nahor, and they responded that they knew him.
Coincidentally, Laban’s younger daughter Rachel was on her way to the well with Laban’s flocks because she was a shepherd. Immediately Jacob saw Rachel with the sheep of Laban; he rolled the large stone away from the well and watered the sheep. Afterwards, Laban heard that his sister’s son was around, and he went to welcome him into his home.
Jacob began to live with his uncle Laban and to work for him. After a month, Laban asked Jacob what he wanted as his wages because it wouldn’t be fair for him to work for free. Meanwhile, during the time when Jacob was living with his uncle, he had fallen in love with his younger daughter Rachel.
Although Laban had two daughters, Jacob wasn’t interested in his older daughter Leah. From the biblical records in Genesis 29:17, Rachel was a beautiful lady with a lovely figure, while Leah had weak eyes.
Because of the love Jacob had for Rachel, he told Laban that he would work for seven years for free in exchange for Rachel’s hand in marriage. Laban agreed to this plan, and Jacob continued to work for him.
After seven years of labor were over, Jacob asked Laban to give Rachel to him as his wife. Then Laban threw a feast and invited the people of the place to the feast, with the aim of celebrating his daughter’s wedding.
In the evening, Laban took Rachel’s elder sister Leah to Jacob instead of Rachel, and he slept with her unknowingly. By morning, Jacob noticed Laban’s deception, despite agreeing to engage in seven years of work without payment, and he confronted him.
Laban told Jacob that it was against the custom of the land for him to give his younger daughter in marriage before the older one. Now Laban came up with another plan when he noticed Jacob’s affection for Rachel was so deep. He told Jacob that if he wanted to marry Rachel, he would have to work for seven additional years for free.
And even though they were not married yet, Rachel would continue to live with him during that period as his wife. Since Jacob’s preference was Rachel and not Leah, he assumed his uncle’s condition was a good deal, and he agreed to it.
Rachel’s Childlessness and Desperation
Because Leah, the older sister of Rachel, was not loved by Jacob, the Lord gave her children, but Rachel had no child of her own. Leah conceived and gave birth to a boy whom she gave the name Reuben, believing that having a son would make Jacob love her.
Leah got pregnant again and gave birth to her second son, whom she gave the name Simeon. Thereafter, she gave birth to two more sons, Levi and Judah, with the hope that they’d make Jacob become attracted to her. However, Jacob’s love for Rachel, despite her childlessness, did not allow him to pay attention to her sister and co-wife Leah.
When Rachel noticed that Leah was conceiving easily and having children for Jacob, she became jealous of her sister. So she threatened Jacob, saying, “Give me children or I’ll die” (Genesis 30:1). Jacob became angry with her for this statement, and he asked if he was in the place of God who prevented her from having children.
Later, Rachel gave her maid Bilhah to Jacob so that she could have children through her. Jacob slept with Bilhah, and she conceived and gave birth to a son whom she named Dan. Again, Bilhah conceived and gave birth to another son, whom Rachel gave the name Naphtali.
Leah also gave her female servant Zilpah to Jacob as a wife, and she conceived and bore a son named Gad. She became pregnant again and gave birth to another son named Asher. (Genesis 30:1-13)
Rachel Becomes a Mother
One day, Leah’s first son, Reuben, went to the fields and took mandrake plants home to his mother. Rachel saw the mandrakes and pleaded with Leah to give her some of it. Initially, Leah disagreed and accused Rachel of trying to take her son’s mandrakes after taking her husband away from her.
So Rachel made a deal with her sister, giving her the permission to sleep with Jacob in exchange for Reuben’s madrakes, and she agreed.
Leah conceived again and gave birth to her fifth son, Issachar, and sixth son, Zebulun, for Jacob. Later, she gave birth to a baby girl named Dinah—the only daughter among Jacob’s children.
Then God opened Rachel’s womb, and she became pregnant and gave birth to a son named Joseph, meaning “God will add.” Joseph later grew up to become Jacob’s favorite son, probably because of the love he had for his mother.
After the birth of Joseph, Jacob told Laban that he was ready to go back to his homeland with his family and possessions. Laban did not want Jacob to leave, so he asked him to name his wages.
Jacob asked Laban to give him every spotted and speckled sheep and goat among his flocks, and his uncle agreed. Being a smart man, Jacob manipulated the animals when they were mating in a way that they began to give birth to spotted and speckled offspring.
Jacob also ensured that the strong animals in the flock belonged to him, while he left the weak ones for Laban. As a result, he became prosperous and had lots of servants, flocks, and possessions.
One day, Jacob heard Laban’s sons gossiping about him, saying that he had taken all their father’s possessions. He also noticed that Laban’s behavior towards him had changed. So he decided that it was time to go back to the land of Canaan with his wives, children, servants, flocks, and properties.
After gathering everything he had acquired during his stay in Paddan Aram, Jacob set out to go back home without informing Laban. But he didn’t know that his wife Rachel had stolen her father’s household gods.
Immediately Laban heard that Jacob had left; he pursued after him for seven days and caught up with him in the hill country of Gilead. Laban accused Joseph of deceiving him, taking his daughters away like captives, and stealing his household gods.
Jacob explained to him that he was afraid because he thought Laban would not allow him to go with his daughters. Then Jacob laid a curse on whoever stole Laban’s household gods that they wouldn’t live, since he wasn’t aware that the items were with Rachel. (Genesis 31:32).
Laban began to look from one tent to the other and didn’t find anything that belonged to him. Meanwhile, Rachel already hid the household gods inside her camel’s saddle and sat on them.
Noticing that Laban was coming towards her, Rachel told him that she was having her period and wouldn’t be able to stand up.
After Laban’s fruitless search, Jacob became angry and he began to express his displeasure at Laban for his mistreatment over the years. Eventually, the two men settled their differences and went their separate ways.
After Jacob and his family left Paddan Aram, Rachel conceived again. At the time Rachel was delivering her baby, she experienced great difficulty and died. Before Rachel’s untimely death, she named her baby boy Ben-Oni, meaning “son of my sorrow,” because of the circumstances surrounding his birth. But Jacob changed the boy’s name to Benjamin, meaning “son of the right hand.”
Rachel was buried, and Jacob set up a pillar over her tomb, known as Rachel’s tomb to this day. (Genesis 35:16-20). There’s a high chance that Jacob’s curse on the person who stole Laban’s household gods finally came to pass in the life of Rachel. Rachel’s death reminds us that words are powerful and actions have consequences.
How Many Wives Did Jacob Have?
Jacob had 2 wives and 2 concubines, and they are Leah, Rachel, Bilhah, and Zilpah. The sons of Jacob are Reuben, Simeon, Levi, Judah, Issachar, Zubulun, Joseph, Benjamin, Dan, Naphtali, Gad, and Asher. Jacob’s only daughter was Dinah. Jacob loved Joseph more than all his other sons, and even made a coat of many colors for him. This favoritism caused his brothers to become jealous of him to the extent that they planned to kill him. (Genesis 37).
Final Thoughts
There are lots of life lessons to learn from the fascinating story of Jacob and his wives that can benefit believers in many ways. Jacob’s sacrificial love for his wife Rachel encouraged him to spend several years working for his father-in-law without complaining. He was willing to make sacrifices for his wife to prove his love for her.
This story makes us understand the sacrificial love of Christ that made Him die for our sins on the cross of Calvary. As believers, we must determine to emulate the love of Christ towards everyone we meet. Let’s remember that there is no true love without sacrifices.
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